Rachel Bright and Jim Field’s The Lion Inside is a tale about courage, confidence and self-esteem. In it, a shy mouse who is fed up of being overlooked decides to find his roar by asking for help from the big, bossy lion who commands all the attention. This heartwarming book about a lion and a mouse who forge an unlikely friendship teaches kids about being brave. Everyone is different, and some children need more help to develop self-esteem. While this story is a great place to start, here are some other ways you can support a child with low self-esteem.

What causes low self-esteem?

Children naturally go through periods of low confidence or self-esteem, particularly if they’re facing big changes like a house move or new school. However, sometimes they might experience low self-esteem for longer periods, which can result in low mood, anxiety or self-criticism. Causes of low self-esteem can be hearing negative messages from parents, carers or teachers, or being criticised by peers or siblings. Comparing themselves to others or consuming negative social media can also cause low self-esteem. 

How to support a child with low self-esteem

There are several ways in which you can help a child to build their self-esteem. These include:
 

1. Talking

Sometimes, all it takes is knowing someone cares and is listening. Checking in with them, asking about their weekend or encouraging them to talk about their struggles can help relieve some of the silent burden they’re carrying. 

2. Offer praise

If the child has done a good drawing, written a story or been helpful, be sure to praise their efforts. Rather than simply saying, “That’s good”, be specific. For example, “I love the colours you’ve chosen” or “It was really helpful of you to put the toys back so carefully”.
 

3. Encourage them to try things

Showing children that giving things a try and enjoying the process rather than focussing on the result can help them to stop worrying about failure. Encourage them in small things, like trying a new food or a different piece of play equipment at the park.

4. Model failure in a positive way

Kids often pick up habits and behaviours from grown-ups. Allow a child with low self-esteem to see you fail at things and brush it off. For example, “Oh dear, my cake doesn’t taste very nice does it? Never mind, I’ll try and get it right next time.”
 

5. Encourage them to meet others

Low self-esteem can often come from feeling different or comparing yourself to others. Encouraging children to join a local club or group can help them to meet like-minded people who will welcome them and share their interests, making them feel like they fit in. 

6. Find things that help

Try to notice things that seem to help the child feel better, and encourage them to keep doing them. Perhaps they seem a bit brighter after listening to music, colouring mindfully or going for a walk in nature. Make time to do these things with younger children to show them your support. 

See The Lion Inside this summer

You can see The Lion Inside read aloud on stage this summer at Southampton’s Mayflower Studios and the Chelmsford Theatre. This vibrant show retells Rachel Bright and Jim Field’s book on a lion and a mouse with puppetry, songs and dancing - and at just 55 minutes long with no interval, it’s ideal for kids aged three and up. Book your tickets today to join the fun.